The secret sexual basement

An excellent paper by Dr. Omar Minwalla, February 2021.

Unfortunately, I can relate to every word of this.

https://secureservercdn.net/72.167.241.180/226.c7e.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/The-Secret-Sexual-Basement_7_6_21.pdf?time=1625615316

Interesting article

I’m a big, big fan of Chumplady, the fiendishly funny author of ‘Lose A Cheater Gain A Life’. Every now and again she applies her UBT (Universal Bullshit Translator) to an email or message sent from cheater to chump.

This recent UBT is, I think, is one of her funniest:

http://www.chumplady.com/2021/06/ubt-we-are-all-complex

Betrayal blindness

Interesting article.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/betrayal-blindness-how-an_b_3146159

What is DARVO?

Very interesting academic paper by Jennifer Freyd on the concept of DARVO. Probably the clearest explanation that I’ve come across.

Well worth a read if you have any interest in the subject.

https://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/defineDARVO.html

Another description in Metro: https://metro.co.uk/2020/06/13/guide-darvo-gaslighting-response-people-give-when-called-bad-behaviour-12847680/?ito=cbshare

Time lapse photos of seagulls

Don’t ask why. We’re in the grip of a pandemic and I’m getting itchy feet.

Lockdown in St. Leonards #02

Some more photos of St. Leonards-on-Sea taken during the long boring hours of lockdown. Some were taken in Rye, Dover and Eastbourne.

Lockdown in St. Leonards

A selection of photos I’ve taken on my iPhone during lockdown. Post processing all done in Affinity Photo.

My go-to website

For over a year Chumplady.com has been my first port of call when I’m in the mood to laugh at the absurdities of life.

This is a very good article. I hope she won’t mind my linking to it.

Boris and the Tories: It’s time to put up or shut up

The most frustrating thing about this bunch of silver spoon imbeciles running the country is their continuing reactive approach. 

So we’re heading towards another lockdown are we? And then what? A couple more months of Eat Out To Help Out? Another clarion call telling us to get our lazy fat arses back to work? Who knows? Certainly not the government.

If we’re to sacrifice our health, our sanity, our livelihoods, and our liberty, how about some semblance of a plan? 

We’re weary and fatigued but we’re ready once again to play our part in attempting to tame this virus. But we need Boris and his acolytes to do what we pay them to do and make good on their side of the bargain. To finally show some leadership.

We need a plan, Boris. We need a roadmap that gives us some idea of why we’re doing what we’re being forced to do. And if you’re not able to provide us with such a plan then please do us all a favour and stand down. 

Let someone else take over. There’s every chance that they may not be able to do a better job than the one you have been doing. But there’s no doubt whatsoever that it won’t be any worse.

Oh, what a tangled web we weave

“How stand we now?-he told his tale
To Douglas; and with some avail;                       
  ‘Twas therefore gloom’d his rugged brow.-
Will Surrey dare to entertain,
‘Gainst Marmion, charge disproved and vain?
Small risk of that, I trow.
Yet Clare’s sharp questions must I shun;               
Must separate Constance from the Nun-
O, what a tangled web we weave,
When first we practise to deceive!
A Palmer too!-no wonder why
I felt rebuked beneath his eye:                       
I might have known there was but one,
Whose look could quell Lord Marmion.’”

excerpt from Marmion, by Sir Walter Scott